What is True Friendship?

It was that great theologian Winnie The Pooh who said…

“A friend is someone who helps you up when you’re down,
and if they can’t, they lay down beside you and listen.”

A lot of truth to that!

I never had a lot of friends, that’s partly my fault. I’m kind of a loner an a introvert, except when I’m talking about the word of God, then you can’t shut me up!

But I’ve always had a few close friends.

Growing up as a kid, in middle and High School I had a few close friends. But there was always that one friend that stuck out, that was always there for me.

You get the Idea!

Paul had a few close friends, multiple times he mentions them in his letters. Jesus had the disciples, but we learned that a few were really close to Him. They were Peter, John, James.

I always felt sorry for Andrew though!

But today, its all about how many friends, followers and contacts we have..

Then you have those people who seem to want to be friends with every acquaintance they meet. That can often bring trouble.

Proverbs 18…

A man of too many friends comes to ruin,
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24 [Emphasis Mine]

This is the person who makes friends too easy, without any thought process or discernment behind it. Which most often brings trouble in their life! The second part of this verse encourages us to seek companions, that’s what the word friend means. Seek companions who will be true friends.

As believers, every one of us has a friend who sticks closer than a brother and His name is Jesus. John 15:13

You see, a few genuine friends is far better than having the multitudes of admiring, flattering so called friends that will leave you in a heartbeat at the first sign of trouble. A few true friends are more valuable than the many superficial ones.

Not for nothing, but as for Christians, our closest friends should be, well Christians! Remember Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 15:33…

Give me a few great friends and I’m good!

I don’t need to be friends with everyone. My life is not defined by how many friends I have.

Some questions for those who keep many friends…

  • Do your friends know Jesus?
  • Do they hear the Gospel from you?
  • Do they see the Gospel in you?
  • Do they see your hope in Christ?
  • Or worse, do they see themselves in you!

What is true friendship?

Jeremy Taylor gets it….

Iron sharpens iron,
So one man sharpens another.
Proverbs 27:17.

You see, true friendship is mutual and reciprocal, iron sharpens iron. Friends shape, sharpen and mold friends. One person is sharpened by contact with another. Friends will shape each others way of thinking and living.

Let me end with Pooh…

“We’ll be Friends Forever, won’t we, Pooh?’ asked Piglet.
Even longer,’ Pooh answered.”

...and that’s a beautiful thing!

Comments 2

  • So I was asked, why a post on friendship?

    It was after reading this quote from C. S. Lewis that I thought, there is always more to it!

    “While friendship has been by far the chief source of my happiness, acquaintance or general society has always meant little to me, and I cannot quite understand why a man should wish to know more people than he can make real friends of.”

    C. S. Lewis

  • WOW! Quoting Pooh!

    That’s serious stuff!

    It was Spurgeon who said.

    ‘ You and I need friendship. We are foolish if we commit ourselves to a host of acquaintances”

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